How do you measure love?
Modern (and old-school) movies want us to think that having a fulfilling relationship is this elusive unicorn that we need to chase. Either people fall madly in love at first sight (and will stay that way ‘til death does them part), or we just simply haven’t found the one. Ahem, yeah, right…
If you are a hopeless romantic and want to follow your intuition and destiny, we will not stop you. But I wouldn’t read any further either. This page is not for you.
The truth is that science has jumped leaps and bounds over the past few decades, and we know more about what makes relationships work and what doesn’t than ever before!
At Therapie, we are excited to be integrating cold, hard science and numbers into our couples work to help our couples get the relationship they’ve always wanted: One of connection and purpose, with the ability to skillfully navigate the twists and turns that life throws our way.
For that reason, we utilize the Gottman Relationship Checkup. The Relationship Checkup is a new online assessment that automatically scores a couple’s strengths and challenges.
This clinical tool consists of 337 questions about friendship, intimacy, how well you know your partner, how you manage emotions and conflict, how you share your values and goals, and what gives meaning to your lives. There are additional questions about parenting, housework, finances, trust, and individual areas of concern. The questionnaire is completely confidential, fully HIPAA compliant, and your therapist will be the only person to see your responses.
The Enhanced Gottman Relationship Checkup is a breakthrough in couple’s therapy as it allows for a confidential, efficient way for your clinician to complete the evaluation process. By using this new technology, your assessment can be done at any time and in the setting of your choice! Upon completion, it automatically provides valuable clinical information by pinpointing specific strengths and challenges in your relationship while also suggesting actionable, research-based recommendations for therapy.
You can feel confident in your results. Drs. John and Julie Gottman created this research-based assessment in collaboration with The Gottman Institute to help couples build a personalized treatment plan with their therapist. Armed with the results of this comprehensive assessment, your couples therapist will be well equipped to identify what’s happening in your relationship and confidently map the way forward. And, you too will be let in on the secret of what your therapist is seeing, and what strengths to capitalize on in your relationships, and what areas to focus on for improvement.
The assessment is an optional service and can be taken as part of the initial few sessions with your therapist. The charge for the assessment as part of weekly couples work is $198. If you are engaging in marathon sessions, the assessment is offered to you free of charge.
How It Works
Step One: Accept the Invitation
Your therapist will send each of you a separate email inviting you to The Enhanced Gottman Relationship Checkup.
Step Two: Create a Private Profile
Once you have accepted the email invitation to join The Enhanced Gottman Relationship Checkup, you and your partner will each create individual, separate profiles.
Step Three: Complete the Questionnaire
You and your partner will each complete your own questionnaire at your convenience. Stop and start at any time. Neither partner will be able to access the other’s information at any point in the process. In order to preserve the integrity and accuracy of the tool, you are encouraged not to share your responses with each other or log in to your partner’s account. The actual time it takes to complete each assessment varies, but it will take, on average, about two hours.
Step Four: Get Your Results
When you have both completed your individual questionnaires, your therapist will be notified and will be able to securely log in to review your scores and the analysis of your relationship. Your therapist will be able to discuss the results with you and suggest a treatment plan for improving and strengthening your relationship.